Helping Loved Ones Suffering With Hopelessness

Helping Loved Ones Suffering With Hopelessness

What Causes Feelings of Hopelessness?

Sometimes life can stress you out. Here’s a common scenario that may cause feelings of hopelessness in a loved one. Suppose he or she went to a job interview but didn’t get the job. That can cause feelings of hopelessness. When a loved one sets an expectation to hear that he or she didn’t get the job, it may lead to him or her feeling hopeless…if those feelings are allowed to be the chosen ones. What can you do about it? A lot.

Our attitudes are largely responsible for feeling negative feelings. But, the SAME is true for positive feelings. If you set an expectation that you will NOT get what you are imagining, chances are you will not get what you are anticipating. And in this way, a negative outcome can lead to feelings of hopelessness. But the really great news is that this same process is used to experience positive outcomes of your attitudes and expectations. So, if your loved one is feeling hopeless, be a good listener but encourage optimistic attitudes. This can also help you prevent yourself from feeling hopeless after hearing hopelessness attitudes from your loved one.

The primary causes of negative and positive feelings all come down to thinking processes and how you either think about the situation to optimistically respond or let your emotions take over and negatively react. Then, by acting on those pessimistic attitudes, you get a pessimistic outcome.

It is by negatively reacting, thinking only this ONE possibility is all that can happen AND forgetting to think about new possibilities that you can convince yourself to feel hopeless when things go contrary to what you expect. That is one thing that can cause feelings of hopelessness. But there is more to it than that as well. Keep reading to discover more about how to effectively manage feelings of hopelessness in yourself or your loved ones.

All Feelings Are Thought Based

As a human, a primary activity we all do with the mind and brain is think. When you think, you do so using different types of thoughts.

You use one part of your mind and brain to think in basic logical thoughts using words. Additionally, you use another brain part to think in comparative analysis formulas and processes using symbols and numbers. Thirdly, you use still another brain quadrant with your mind and brain to imagine or visualize an idea using mind images. And lastly, you use your fourth brain quadrant to think in feelings.

When you explicitly think optimistic thoughts, from all types of thinking using words, numbers/symbols, visualization, you positively affect the feelings you feel. Hopelessness is a feeling. If you think any type of thought that depresses you, you will feel hopeless feelings. So, one thing you can do to feel hopeful is to think hopeful-based thoughts. And you can share this information with your loved one who may be struggling with hopeless feelings, too.

Are you (or your loved one) susceptible to believing negative, hopeless-based suggestions that keep one feeling hopeless? These are commonly shared through the TV or by listening to depressing, discouraging newscasts. When they keep you focused on hopeless things happening in the world, the end result is believing we live in a hopeless world. By watching too much TV or listening to negative radio broadcasts, reading negative newspaper or magazine messages, a person can develop the habit of thinking negatively.

Or, if you are around perfectionists or people who love to be in charge and want you to believe their negative opinions about your abilities, you may have developed how to think like them. Luckily, this is a learned behavior that can be unlearned.

You can feel better about the world in which you live and help your loved one think more positively, too. But it takes practice and perseverance.

Stop believing everything you see on TV. Stop listening to discouraging newscasts. And, for the perfectionists and control freaks in your life, consider taking an assertiveness training course or suggesting it to your loved one! Seeing the possibilities in life to live an improved quality of life requires courage and focus. It takes action on your part and choosing to live from a positive attitude.

Is Your Brain Causing Hopelessness Feelings?

Thinking optimistically may only work in various situations. Sometimes, you may need to consider physical causes coming from the brain. If you or your loved one are subject to hopeless feelings, there may be a need to be examined by a medical doctor.

Research shows some people may have an issue with a certain brain part that helps us respond to odors and process emotions. If the depressed person feels severely depressed, this brain part may be malfunctioning. If you want to learn more about whether this sounds like something you or your loved one is experiencing, please read the following article here:

Should You Go See a Medical Doctor?

The internet is a wonderful creation. However, it is recommended that you do not jump to conclusions about your or your loved one’s health and well being just by reading one article on the internet. If you feel anything you read about depression on the internet applies to you, or someone in your care, do not allow yourself to feel upset until you have the facts. Instead, make an appointment at your medical doctor to get checked out. Only a medical doctor can tell you if there is something about which for you to be truly concerned.

What Natural Solutions Can Help?

Almost anytime we express a strong emotion, we also create a hypnotic mind state. If you or your loved one are susceptible to negative suggestions, you may have hypnotized yourself into believing something is wrong with you. Luckily, you can use this same process to calm and relax yourself which helps you think more clearly. Hypnosis is a useful natural tool that can help you even if there is a physical issue contributing to your feeling hopeless.

If you would like to learn how to naturally reduce feelings of hopelessness, consider hypnosis. Using this natural ability within you from birth, you can naturally learn to relax and feel hopeful. Please contact me about this. Together we can help you anticipate, expect and learn to live in high hopes. Just email me at or call for a free, twenty-minute initial consultation at 262-264-0214.

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