Do you often have a very distracting, anxiety-based conversation in your head keeping you stressed out? This kind of dialog in your head seems to keep you focused on being anxious. And it prevents you from relaxing, a key to eliminating and reducing anxiety. If it seems like a perfectionist lives in your head, that just won’t shut up, here are some simple relaxation techniques to help you avoid creating an anxiety attack!
Do you experience acute or chronic anxiety? Something that is acute occurs for a short term. Chronic anxiety may include Post Traumatic Stress Disorder or other anxiety disorders that often require professional counseling.
An example of acute anxiety would be feeling anxious before you go on a date. You only feel it during those specific activities.
When you feel anxious before you do an activity, you anticipate that something unpleasant will probably happen on that date.
An activity date could be going out with a friend to a landscape nursery, going out with someone of the opposite sex, a co-worker, to the dentist, or out to a movie in a theater. The anxiety that happens when you do these activities is called social anxiety because you are acting social with others.
Many Opportunities To Relax And Be Social
There are many examples of social activities where you feel anxiety. However, if you feel social anxiety about participating in them, that can cause all kinds of unpleasant physical body reactions and feelings. If you allow yourself to be and feel anxious about these activities, it can cause a rise in your cortisol levels. Thus it is valuable to you to learn to relax.
Here are some relaxation techniques you can use before going out on a social activity date:
- Ask yourself a question as if what you are about to experience will result in you feeling good, happy and secure about a common interest you share with that person. Examples of a suggestion to think before going on a blind date:
- Why do I feel so happy to be meeting somebody who also is interested in (dogs?)
- Why do I know that going out on a blind date with someone who also (loves dogs) makes conversation easy?
- Why do I love the idea of meeting someone who (loves dogs as much as I do?)
- B-r-e-a-t-h-e slowly and calmly before you socialize with others. Go to your hall mirror, look at yourself in it, inhale deeply and calmly, exhale and say to yourself in a question format, “Why do I expect and anticipate to enjoy myself on this (date) today?”
- Imagine that you are going on a fun adventure instead of thinking of what could go wrong. Suppose you are going to the dentist. For many people, they avoid going to the dentist imagining that it is the dentist who is causing pain. However, the dentist uses an anesthetic for most procedures. So actually, the dentist already has planned for the event to be pain free for you. Suggest to yourself that the dentist is your friend already planning to accommodate your desire to have a pain free experience. Ask yourself a question in the same format where you anticipate and expect to be favored in the outcome at the dentist office. Examples of suggestions to ask yourself might be:
- Why does my dentist respect me enough to already have prepared an anesthetic for my visit?
- Why do I know that by focusing on and expecting for this visit to go as pleasantly as possible it will go that way I imagine it?
- Why do I know that by suggesting something good for me, I get what I expect?
You may be wondering why suggesting these ideas in a question format works so well to naturally reduce anxiety. The truth is that almost anytime we express a strong emotion, we are also creating a hypnotic mind state. Once you hypnotize yourself and then suggest an idea as a question, your brain and mind work together to act like a search engine. If you only suggest to yourself that things will go well for you, your mind and brain search ONLY for that type of answer.
In other words, where you put your focus, you will “believe that idea in” to your subconscious mind. This is how we create beliefs. It is beneficial to believe useful suggestions. That’s the real value in using hypnosis to achieve goals.
If you would love to learn more natural relaxation techniques including hypnosis to benefit you, please contact me. Together we can help you discover simple ways you can relax and reduce anxiety. Just email me at firstname.lastname@example.org or call for a free, twenty-minute initial consultation at 262-264-0214.