Coping with Holiday Loneliness

Coping with Holiday Loneliness

Christmas is in the air once again. Carols play endlessly on the radio, Santas can be found in every department store and ads for the latest gifts ideas are everywhere. While many of us are excited for the holiday season, others dread its coming. Generally, we associate Christmas with festivities and joy. But for people who are going through transitions in their lives, the holidays bring about a powerful feeling of loneliness.


In 2006, the research firm Greenberg Quinlan Rosner conducted a survey research for the American Psychological Association. The firm surveyed Americans regarding their feelings about the holiday season. Results show that one in four Americans report experience loneliness during the holidays. Perhaps you are among them. If so, here are some ways you can avoid feeling lonely this year:


Be In Charge of Your Feelings

Rather than wallowing in isolation and loneliness during the holiday season, take action and be in charge of your feelings. Do things that can minimize those negative feelings so you can experience greater emotional balance and most importantly, a happy holidays with your loved ones. Here are six suggestions you could try:


  • Acknowledge your loneliness instead of denying it. What you feel is real and worth contemplating. If you are hesitant to share your feelings with family or friends, consider talking to a therapist. Being able to vent out how you feel can make a HUGE difference.
  • Anticipate your loneliness and make plans how to handle it. Strive to reconnect with people whom you have lost contact with. Organize your own social event and invite family and friends to come.
  • Celebrate the holiday season in a different way. If being at home or going to a family gathering is a source of discomfort, try something new like going on a vacation. If holiday preparations stress you out or make you feel depressed, share your tasks with others.
  • Do not neglect yourself. Despite the busyness of the holidays, find the time to take care of yourself. Do activities that you enjoy. Get enough rest, eat delicious and healthy food, watch a good movie, go to the spa o spend the afternoon taking a relaxing bubble bath. Do whatever makes you feel safe and happy.
  • Minimize your alcohol intake. Many cope with loneliness through alcohol consumption. Little do they know that alcohol makes them feel worse because it is a depressant, not a stimulant, it intensifies your feelings of sadness.
  • The holidays is a great time to reach out and help someone in need. One of the most potent antidotes to loneliness is doing charity work. When you help others, you also help yourself. Your act of kindness actually boosts your feelings of self-worth and usefulness. Feel the warmth of the holiday spirit by volunteering your time and efforts to the less privileged. It might help increase your connection to others and give you a better perspective and inner peace.


As the festive season nears, remember to be the captain of your ship. Know that you can control the script of your celebrations and that you can overcome holiday loneliness. Another way to ensure you have a memorable holiday season is to allow hypnosis to work in you. With it, you can conquer habits that put on you on a path filled with anxiety and depression. It can also help you develop your confidence to mingle with others. Are you determined to make this year’s holidays a meaningful one? Call 262-264-0214 to schedule your free consultation. You may also send me a message at

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