Resolving Bedwetting

Resolving Bedwetting

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Life begins (4)Resolving Bedwetting Takes Family Teamwork

Are you researching natural solutions for your child’s bedwetting challenge? At any age, bedwetting might seem like an embarrassing, overwhelming problem for your child. And what about the rest of the family members? How might they be affected? Are they supportively encouraging your bedwetter to hang in there and know they love him no matter how long it takes to work through the issue or making fun of him and perhaps lowering your child’s self-esteem?

Children and parents with poor life skills can feel stressed about a child’s bedwetting behavior. Regularly telling your child to be able to stop the behavior when he or she physiologically, mentally or emotionally CAN’T stop adds unnecessary stress to the situation.

Increased stress can trigger unloving behavior and unkind words from those people important to your child. Luckily, the stress can be reduced.   By incorporating compassion, patience and understanding by all those involved in the situation, peace can return to the family unit.

Imagine being in your child’s situation. Can you picture how you might feel if bedwetting seemed to be your embarrassing, unwanted, relentless companion? Ask all family members to get in touch with your child’s feelings about bedwetting. Develop empathy and compassion for him or her. This simple step can improve the environment for everyone.

Bedwetting Can Negatively Affect Self Esteem

You may tell yourself that the bedwetting must eventually stop sooner or later. Reassuring yourself and your child about it helps make things easier.   In fact, expecting your child to “deal with it” and just “make the problem go away somehow” can negatively affect his or her self-esteem. That’s why being patient and reassuring your child that things will get better helps improve things.

Accept your child for who he or she is. Express genuine affection and caring even while your child feels embarrassed, inadequate or frustrated. Focus on loving your child instead of criticizing the behavior which might actually physically be out of his or her control.

The Difference Between Can’t And Won’t

Children develop at their own unique physiological rate. Some children, more often boys, may wet the bed until they are 7 or 8 or perhaps into their teens. Shaming or using guilt never helps your child physiologically mature and develop faster than biology permits. It just adds unwanted stress.

Concerning bedwetting, the issue may be a “can’t” situation compared with a “won’t” choice. If your child’s physiology simply hasn’t developed yet, he may be without the neurological development, DNA instruction and biological equipment to stop bedwetting.

In this case, he or she actually CAN’T stop bedwetting. If this is temporarily the case, expecting your child to have the ability to stop bedwetting is like expecting yourself to have the ability to lift a 2 ton vehicle using only your physical muscles. You CAN’T lift a car in this situation. Expecting yourself to be ABLE to do it is an unreasonable expectation. In fact, that is an unrealistic expectation for any human.

Such may be the case for your child. He may temporarily be without the actual “equipment” or ability to stop bedwetting. Seeing things this way, make things easier. Accept things as they are and wait for his biology to develop.

When we use the word “won’t” that demonstrates a choice. If your child CHOOSES to act out by bedwetting and CAN stop, other expectations can be reasonable. But, he or she may still need help. In these cases, you may need a trained professional who can help your child change perspectives. Changed perspectives help people accept change as a good thing.

Understanding how to support your child through this situation makes for a happier home and school environment. So, ponder your situation now and ask yourself – is my child’s bedwetting a “can’t” or “won’t” situation? Then make a decision about how to proceed to help your child improve his or her life quality.

Why Do Some Children Struggle With Bedwetting?

Pinpointing the reasons some children wet the bed and others do not can be difficult. Though typically children under age 6 may be more likely to wet the bed than older aged children.

Common Reasons For Bedwetting

After a doctor confirms no medical cause can be found for your child’s bedwetting, the next step would be to look for a mental or emotional stress reason.   Then, you might consider looking for an allergen causing the behavior. Others reasons include genetics, neurology, immune system issues, undiagnosed

Urinary Tract Infections (UTI) , the sensitivity of your child. Major changes taking place in the house, for instance change of residence, or arrival of new baby could be bothering your child. This may be triggering the bedwetting.

If your child needs help changing perspectives to reduce stress about his or her bedwetting, I can help him or her with that. Please contact me, Karla Hermann by email at or by phone at 262-264-0214.

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